Raise your hand if you’ve been following the conversations taking place after Hollaback released this video of a woman walking around NYC to a chorus of catcalls, whistles and general street harassment. I’ve been pretty busy this week and it hasn’t left a lot of time for reading, but it does fascinate me. I’ve, and all the female friends I’ve talked to about this, have experienced almost all the stuff in the video at one time or another (the insults when you don’t stop to talk, being told to “smile” for the benefit of guys, the silent ones that walk intimidatingly beside you or behind you when you don’t respond to them, the “i’m just saying hello” excuse etc etc). So, it fascinates me that some guys feel it is so intrinsically their right to behave like this, regardless of how uncomfortable it makes a woman (or girl, because let’s be honest – how young were you when you first encountered this?) feel.
So here’s a few links of thread I’ve been following – and some that I’ve bookmarked to read about, such as the way racism intersects with sexism in the video when all the white catcalls (for whatever reason) are edited out…
– The original hollaback! video
– The ultimate bro responds to Amanda Seales saying “we do not like this, this should stop” on a CNN spot about it, with literally “that’s never gonna happen” and if she doesn’t like catcalling and doesn’t feel safe, then she should “leave NYC” and “buy a gun”. I mean…really. Even the anchor loses it at that point.
– Elon James White calls out the guys using the ‘I’m just saying hello, not catcalling’ excuse in the best way possible: highlighting through humour just how much that is total rubbish with #DudesGreetingDudes.
– A thoughtful response to the lack of white men in the hollaback video over at The Mary Sue.
– stopthecatcall.tumblr.com <– because being made uncomfortable happens whatever you’re wearing
Cherokee legend has it that the battle between two ‘wolves’ is waged inside us all. One is bad: made up of anger, jealousy, sorrow, spite, guilt, resentment, lies and false pride. The other is good; it is joy and peace, kindness, love, empathy, generosity and truth. Which one wins?
The one you feed.
Interrupting some scheduled away-time to say, currently in the US enjoying a good rest and recharge. Also GO NANCY for winning the bake off!! Also, turns out spelt bagels are edible things for people with wheat intolerance and zomgsohappy.
When I heard the learn’d astronomer;
When the proofs, the figures, were ranged in columns before me
When I was shown the charts and the diagrams, to add, divide, and measure them;
When I, sitting, heard the astronomer, where he lectured with much applause in the lecture-room,
How soon, unaccountable, I became tired and sick;
Till rising and gliding out, I wander’d off by myself,
In the mystical moist night-air, and from time to time,
Look’d up in perfect silence at the stars.
– Walt Whitman
Breaking pre-holiday work craziness just to say: this video and song are wonderful. Reminds me of Amy Poehler’s perfect response to a guy who was interviewing her complaining that there were too many expectations of how men should be because, “Being cool is, like, passé. And now you have to be awkward and adorkable.” Amy:”Well, this feeling that you’re having right now – which is like “I’m supposed to be all things” – is a feeling that women have every day and have their whole lives. So you’re just starting to experience it now.”